PTED stories (1 + 2)


Wife and unfaithful husband*

A woman married for 15 years puts priority on the relationship with her husband and their family (they have children) so that he can climb up the career ladder in his company. She helps him to manage challenges and assists him as good as she can and sacrifices her own development. 

Then one day, by accident, she found a letter written by her husband to a younger colleague that made explicit reference to a fulfilling sexual relationship with her. In this moment, the wife’s whole world tumbled down and she was filled with very strong anger, shame (I did it wrong) and (long-lasting) embitterment. 

She is very much inclined to inflict much harm on him (retaliation), even if these actions were to destroy her own life.



Humiliation of a Correctional Officer*

A woman worked as correctional officer in a prison for men. She was proud that she could ‘stand her man’. 

One day, a prisoner tugged her into his cell and kept her there for some time. She was not overly concerned about this since she felt able to handle this situation. 

Now, due to the fact that she worked as a woman in a men’s prison (and that’s always of interest for the public), her boss initiated a disciplinary proceeding and accused her that she was to blame for not strictly adhering to the regulations and that would render her incompetent for this job. 

For her, this was utterly unjust and very unfair. She regarded herself as very competent with excellent work ethics.  She felt very embarrassed and had to constantly think about this event and how she was treated by her boss. She felt unable to continue her job. 


*For full story descriptions, see:  Michael Linden ‘Verbitterung und Posttraumatische Verbitterungsstörung, hogrefe Verlag, 1. Auflage 2017)


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